Today was an episode of “Things I didn’t realize I had.” Yes, this is the entire girl’s basketball team for our school (the only school in town), when I was a kid. The redhead on the right in the oval is me, of course. I ran across three of these photos sets for different years, covered in a layer of dust. I scanned them, and am now tossing them.
I also found a new home for this grill. Thanks, Craigslist!
So, my husband grilled bacon on this, once. The resulting wall of flame and ocean of grease resulted in it no longer being used.
So, here’s something to think about. I didn’t even know I had most of these items. Some of them have been packed in boxes for nearly 20 years. Let me digress (I promise to come back to this). My husband and I went in for couples counseling. We found out so much about our triggers, and the emotional baggage we both labor under. When we have disagreements, we’re not even disagreeing about the subject at hand. Instead, we’re reacting to things that happened to us 20, 25, 30 years ago. It’s ridiculous. It’s ridiculous to hold each other accountable for abuse that happened long before we’d ever met. We’ve been hauling it around without even knowing it. Just having this pointed out to us by a third party has helped our relationship more than I’d have thought possible. We’re more patient with each other, now.
I think there’s something to be said for the symbolic act of going through old boxes and disposing of items that no longer have any meaning. Memories that don’t support my goals and the life I’m now living. Items I didn’t even realize I was carrying from home to home. Far beyond the practical and literal decluttering I’ve been doing, I’m coming to realize what my unexamined boxes mean. The whole thing has been eye opening.
Disposed of, but not photographed:
* Huge pile of brand new bags I used to use for craft shows for buyers to carry things in.
* Various old letters
* Ribbon organizer
* Student of the year plaque
* Graduation board/hat with tassel/whatever it’s called
Total items decluttered this month: 91
I’m playing a decluttering game in June, courtesy of The Minimalists. If you’d like to play along or recommend any resources, I’d love to hear from you!